Suffer for love It is painful. When a story ends, you often live a trauma, but you really need to give up love to not suffer?
“Refusing to love for fear of suffering is like refusing to live for fear of dying ”
So wrote Jim Morrison, yet the inner disconnection It is a mechanism that many people put into practice. Means choose not to experience any feeling so as not to suffermeans “cooling” the heart to protect the soul from any failures, disappointments or wounds that do not heal.
This strategy actually moves away from a healthy participation in life.
For a moment we analyze the purpose of the emotions we feel. Every time they activate in the brain, they trigger a reaction in all our being.
THE’enthusiasm or passion They immerse us in dynamics that make us feel more energetic and creative than ever.
The regreton the other hand, it takes us away from something or someone, but those who think that negative emotions do not have a purpose or only serve to make us unhappy, are wrong.
In reality, these emotions have allowed us human beings to learn, adapt and go on during our evolution and life cycle. Anxiety and fear They are survival mechanisms, alarm signals that we must know how to interpret in order to translate them into adaptation responses that guarantee our integrity.
Inner disconnection: when we neglect our emotions
Modern man finds himself in contact with different types of fears. These range from those aroused by external threats or concrete physical dangers up to the fears that arise from the inside. Those personal demons that paralyze us, who take away the air and who undoubtedly have different causes.
Given our difficulty in managing these fears, sometimes we opt for The inner disconnection syndrome used as a defense mechanism. This should take us back from exposure to emotions that appear too strong to be managed and we feel at risk of being overwhelmed.
For a moment we imagine any person, a young man who has an emotional past full of failures behind him.
His level of disappointment is so profound that the boy has started a new phase of his life. It minimizes its emotional commitment. Does not want to suffer yet Nor do you try other disappointments or diselte.
Its defense mechanisms to achieve these objectives are now refined: it has started a complex dissociation between thoughts and emotions to the point of “intellectualizing” anything. In this way, he protects his emotional insulation at any time. It makes reasoning like: “I am happy alone, I think love is a waste of time and that you hinder my professional future”.
These are the premises so that inner disconnection syndrome can be developed. However, and here comes the interesting fact, in addition to raising a barrier to avoid actively participating in life, you risk sinking into the same emotional void from which we want to protect ourselves.
The effects of emotional disconnection
Closing the doors to the passions often implies applying this scheme of behavior to all the areas of life, because the person who tests the processes to record within himself all emotions.
Over time, the risk is that apathy, disinterest, emotional unwary, discontent, tendency to closure itself, brooding, rustling, insomnia emerge.
Living in connection with your emotions: a daily life saver
“If I had not suffered as you suffered, you would not have the depth, humility and compassion of the human being ” (Eckhart Tolle).
Choosing not to try anything in order not to suffer does not make sense. It makes no sense because the human being is not a rational entity or a machine.
Each of us is made of emotions who act as a guide and allow you to connect with others, to learn to get up after a fall, to cry any pain, laugh from happiness and go on with high head up after passing certain dangers that have however represented a moment of awareness.
THE’human being is designed to actnot to remain firm and isolated in unusual.
When our inner balance is somehow troubled, a good idea is to collect energy, be creative and courageous to find inner homeostasis.
And that’s how we can reach the emotional fullness or that perfect point where nothing is missing and nothing hurts.
Let’s allow ourselves to experience emotions again to connect first with ourselves and to “risk”, then, to establish a contact with those around us.
In the end, our brain is a wonderful social and emotional entity that needs others to feel good, to be in peace and in a balance that proves to be necessary.
So, Let’s take care of our emotions.
