Homosexual doc: the fear of being homosexual

What is the so -called homosexual doc

Emerging sexuality can cause a sense of confusion in every teenager; The homosexual boys and girls, in particular, face a series of unique challenges during adolescence.

In addition to learning to understand their sexuality, young gays and young lesbians face complex situations and pressure that may not be relevant for heterosexual teenagers.

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They must also deal with stubborn parents, friends and others who can sometimes have divergent opinions onsexual orientation. Feelings of anxiety, anguish and confusion are often part of this process.

This article, however, does not concern anxiety associated with homosexual being or “coming out”, but rather the obsessive doubt of being homosexual or to be able to become it despite not having founded reasons to suspect it.

It is an anxiety disorder that afflicts a number of individuals, which does not only concern teenagers but can occur at any age.

What are the obsessions of being homosexual?

The obsessive fear of homosexuality It is a specific subtype of the obsessive-compulsive disorder (Homosexual doc) which provides for recurrent sexual obsessions and intrusive doubts about one’s sexual orientation.

Heterosexual individuals with obsessions on their sexual orientation fear being gay or “latent” lesbians and to discover one day that their sexual orientation is different from what they have always believed it was.

Their obsessions Often they consist of unwanted thoughts, impulses or images that, without any control, emerge to consciousness.

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To reduce the anxiety caused by Obsessive fear of being homosexualengage in a variety of rituals aimed at “demonstrating their true sexual orientation” or aimed at reducing the perception of “vulnerability” to becoming homosexual.

People with Obsessive fear of homosexuality They care to be able to be secretly gay or to be able to become it, despite having never questioned their sexuality in the past.

Before the start of the disorder, they may have had some normal and fleeting doubts about their sexual orientation, but nothing more.

The relational history of those suffering from homosexual DOC

Many people with DOC from homosexuality I can also have a story of satisfactory heterosexual relationships in the past, as well as also have an ongoing heterosexual relationship at the moment.

The onset of unwanted thought leads them to question their sexual identity and repeatedly re -enabling previous experiences, in light of the possibility of being able to be gay or lesbian.

The need for absolute certainty about sexual orientation

Individuals with fear of being homosexual They want to know “for sure” that they are not, and often do everything to show themselves that I am straight.

However, the obsessive compulsive disorder It is strengthened more and more by rituals and avoidance, and these attempts end up being counterproductive.

The result is that some people are deeply disabled by the symptoms of the Doc. It is not uncommon, in fact, that they become depressed, they withdraw from school, leave the work, close their relationships or make other radical decisions that paradoxically have as a consequence the worsening of symptoms.

In some cases, individuals with this type of obsessive compulsive disorder experience homosexual relationships to test themselves and try to dispel their doubts.

However, unlike lesbians and gay, for which to make “coming out” is equivalent to finding happiness, people with DOC of homosexuality They find these experiences even more confusing and distressing.

Homosexual doc: the symptoms

Many people who are tormented by doubt of being able to be homosexualwhen they are near people of the same sex, they “control” their body in search of signs of sexual excitement.

Others have a variant of obsessive contamination disorder and fear that contact with gay men, lesbians, bisexuals or effective or androgynous people be “contagious” or can somehow “activate” theirs latent homosexuality.

Still others are afraid of acting due to unwanted sexual impulses. If they are around gay people or individuals of the same sex, they are afraid of losing control and having misunderstandings.

Others still affected by homosexual obsessions They worry that other people can think that they are gay, and try with all their will to behave “straight”.

Many, however, show most of the symptoms listed above.

Mental rituals in obsessive homosexuality disorder

Wondering: “I find that attractive person?” (Often applied to both, both to individuals of the opposite sex and of the same sex).
Wondering: “Am I excited right now?”
Wondering: “I am disgusted how should I from this scene?” (Seeing pairs of the same sex).

Other attitudes such as those following are aimed at trying to “understand” or determine their sexual orientation.

Re-analyze previous relational or sexual experiences to make sure to be heterosexual.
Try to definitively convince yourself of your sexual orientation.
Reassure yourself about your sexual orientation (“I am absolutely heterosexual”).
Mentally compare themselves with straight people and homosexual people.
Repeatedly divert attention from individuals of the same sex and direct it to individuals of opposite sex.
Repeat to itself not to be homosexual.
Try to understand why previous relationships have failed (to make sure that it was not linked to the fact that previous partners believed that I could be gay/lesbian).
Plan and anticipate all the probable consequences of a “coming out”, even if there is no desire to declare yourself homosexual or have no homosexual relationships.
Plan how to leave your spouse or boyfriend (even if you have no intention of doing it).
Neutralize “gay thoughts” with “straight thoughts”.
Mentally depict the genitals of the opposite sex or heterosexual acts, to reduce anxiety caused by intrusive thoughts.
Analyze the environment to identify people who could be gay or lesbian.
Escape from unwanted thoughts by recalling to the mind passes satisfactory sexual experiences.
Replace homosexual thoughts unwelcome with other thoughts.

Behavioral rituals in obsessive disorder with fear of homosexuality

Check your body in search of physical excitement signals (it can also be a mental ritual).
Walk excessively masculine (if man) or female (if woman) in order to appear straight.
Interact excessively masculine or feminine.
Speak only of “adequate” male or female topics.
Implement washing rituals (hands, etc.) if you have come into contact with gay men, lesbians, or bisexual people.
Watch straight pornography in order to draw reassurance from the fact that I am excited.
Look at homosexual pornography in order to “try” themselves to be disgusted or not to be excited about it.
Ask other people if they have ever found an attractive person of the same sex.
Ask others “It is normal that ..?” – or ask questions of this type repeated to obtain reassurances.
Ask other reassurances about their sexuality.
Repeatedly ask the ex boyfriend for why the relationship is over.
Start too many heterosexual stories to “try” to themselves to be heterosexual and to be attracted to the opposite sex.
Masturbating compulsively with heterosexual pornography in order to make sure you are attracted to the opposite sex.
Act aggressively, insulting or despising homosexual people.
In some cases, exit with people of the same sex or undertake homosexual acts and then try to understand the meaning of these experiences, but finding them distressing and unwanted.

Avoidance in obsessive disorder with fear of homosexuality

Typically those suffering from homosexual DOC can avoid:

Gay, lesbians and bisexuals.
The things that have been touched by gay, lesbian or bisexual men.
Physical contact with people of the same sex (tightening your hand, hugs).
to remain alone with individuals of the same sex.
conversations with individuals of the same sex.
Places frequented by homosexual people.
Public baths, changing rooms, and other situations in which there may potentially be nudity of individuals of the same sex.
images / movies that portray attractive people as the same sex.
Attractive people of the same sex.
The activities that are not typically male (if man) or female (if woman).
to dress in a typically male or female way.
Typically homosexual music or films with actors or gay characters.
sentimental relationships and sexual activity for fear that unwanted thoughts “compare” during sex.
Visual contact with same sex.
When you are in public, to look at the groin, the butt or breast of people of the same sex.
to masturbate for fear that unwanted thoughts with homosexual content appear.
television programs with homosexual characters or themes.
Viola objects, with rainbows and other symbols associated with homosexuality.
Androgynous or extravagant clothing.

Treatment of obsessive fear of being gay or lesbian

“What if this is not doc? And if I am really gay?”.

These are recurring questions and it is important to discuss them with an expert cognitive therapist.

If you suffer from Obsessive doubts about your sexual orientationremember that these are like a “false alarm”, which has nothing to do with your actual sexual orientation.

People looking for care for the DOC from homosexuality They are anxious because they would like to know the unknowable at any cost.

Unfortunately, there is simply no objective way to determine the “true” sexual orientation. If there was a simple solution, they would have found it now.

The treatment of obsessive disordertherefore, must not have a reassuring function, nor to convince the patient that doubts are absolutely unfounded, but must focus on the objective of teaching him to live with a minimum margin of doubt.

In other words, the treatment should not aim to demonstrate the patient who is not homosexual, but rather helping him to acquire the best skills to tolerate the unknowable.

The obsessive fear of being homosexual It works just like the other types of also obsessions of the DOC: the more you analyze thoughts and the body to try to “understand the truth”, the more likely it is that for unconsciously the obsessive symptoms are fed and strengthened.

A good path of psychotherapy, however, can help anyone suffering from these problems to get out of it by recovering serenity and taking up their lives in hand.