Relatives often spur those who manifest i Symptoms of depression to react, to strive. This obviously in good faith, without realizing that this tends to make those who suffer even more guilty.
The best attitude to keep is to gradually help the subject to resume their activities, to take on an adequate drug therapy and undertake one Cognitive behavioral psychotherapy.
For help a depressed personInstead of giving the classic exhortations such as “come on you react!”, “Fact courage, go out and flared”, which serve a little while not to make the person feel even more inadequate and depressed, small tricks should be kept in mind:
- Provide support for the person to overcome difficult and stressful problems and events.
- Help her expand her knowledge.
- Deepen and strengthen the relationship (through non -judgmental confidences and support).
- Share a pleasant activity for both.
- Show interest, smile and use an adequate tone of voice to make the other heard and appreciated.
There are also some useful tips that we can provide, if it is impossible to make use of a psychotherapy, but which do not replace the value of professional support anyway.
First of all, it is important that the depressed person learn to distinguish their truly pleasant daily activities from those “useful” or “necessary”.
Once the differences have been recognized, it is good that it is encouraged to increase the activities considered pleasant by planning them precisely and structuredly within the day, even if the depression itself will leave the person the impression that they are useless, tiring and not pleasant as in the past.
Another advice to be given to depressed person It is to ask whether the long time that goes on to think actually serves to solve some practical and concrete problems, or to plan future actions, or if instead it is only a mobble, a continuing to rethink (bold) to mistakes, errors, losses, etc., of the past.
The broods are mental behaviors of maintenance of the depressive state, which must be interrupted and replaced with alternative and pleasant activities.
For help a depressed person It is also useful to suggest him to learn to use the problem solving technique, which facilitates the resolution of those problems that maintain the disorder. His structured passages are easily available on the internet.
You can also encourage the depressed to walk at least 30 minutes a day in the open air; It has been shown to be effective to increase the mood tone, the important thing is that the movement is carried out in the sunlight.
Finally it is fundamental help the depressed person To resume and possibly enlarge social contacts and support relationships, and in this sense the depressed must be helped, because they hardly engage in a proactive way in the search for situations and social contacts.
The best way to stay close e help It is therefore to help him plan what to do, preferably activities that for him were once pleasant and better still if these provide for social contacts. It is certainly easier to feel good with others if you share with them something we like to do.
