The complicity that is created in the game between adults and children testifies to an authentic and profound encounter with important positive consequences for both
A brazen tongue … let’s see if you collect the challenge! The offer of a cup of fake coffee … drink? A shy look speechless … do you see me? Until you get to the explicit request: do we play together? The child asks to enter into relationship with the adult and does so through the language that most belongs to him, that of the gameuniversal dimension that far from the prerogative of childhood, belongs to the human being from birth to adulthood albeit with different characteristics.
When the adult collects the invitation, a wonderful authentic and profound meeting opportunity opens that conveys messages to reflect on:
What you do is beautiful and I’m interested in
The children are happy and satisfied with the involvement of parents in their world. By playing together with the child we value his activities and interests, strengthening their self -esteem.
I want to be with you
Through the game, parents know the child better and practice understanding him, approaching above all emotionally to their children. Share the pleasure of playing creates a climate of close complicity And this “being together”, experiencing moments of joy and lightness, also helps us adults to recognize and train our relational resources.
I also have something to teach you
The game is also one of the few spaces in which the baby can be “better” than the great and the parent can learnfree to show and laugh even at their limits, witnessing one’s own being imperfect. Through fiction (“Do we make me the mother and the child?”) You also have the opportunity to experience new roles, reflect yourself in the gaze of the other and look at things from different points of view.
To play together it is enough to
Playing with your children is really very simple. We can always do it everywherewithout the need to prepare a structured context at all costs. If we dream of the park surrounded by greenery and instead we are lined up in the car, with a little imagination we can count how many things we see from the window … who wins?! We play in the Latvian, play in the waiting room, play in the kitchen. Let’s take back some of this time of the smile.
Let’s really play!
In order for the game to work, however, to be lived in the authenticity of the relationship. That It means for us adults to maintain the balance between taking the thing too seriously or too littleaccepting not to completely control what is happening. The magic formula is simple: sometimes, rather than using the game as an educational method, it would be enough to try to play, without too many pretensions and too many projects. The rest, trust me, will come by itself, and it’s really a great fun!
