We help the little one to develop his autonomy to grow and learn, without doing things for which he is not yet ready
First starting point: yesterday I asked an eight -year -old boy to take off his shoes to be able to measure him in height. He immediately turned to the mother who lowered herself to unfasten the knot while he was motionless to wait. The day before yesterday I made the same request to a four -year -old boy who, on the other hand, made him and the mother remained sitting to observe him. Two children, two educational styles. Feeding shoes is, you will understand, only the tip of the iceberg.
In depth we find autonomydevelopment of neuromotor coordination (i.e. coordination between brain, nerve fibers and peripheral muscles) and development of learning skills, different for each child. Note how to fasten a knot an adult and you will certainly find differences in the movements of the fingers that lead to pack the finished product: it will all depend on the continuous, constant and repetitive observation with which, when he was a child, he learned the technique on the other who had already acquired it. Often, however, We are led by “practicality” to simplify life to our children, or our grandchildrenjust as the mother of the eight -year -old boy did; But in doing so we deprive them of a banal learning stimulus. It is the exact opposite of Educare.
Trust and self -esteem to succeed in the company
If, on the other hand, we left children the “their” time for learn-observingFor learn-boardingthey would understand that to achieve a goal it takes effort, and that it is necessary to try and try again. Think that injection of trust and self -esteem for the child when will succeed in the company. At this point, a child who will have learned the method will be, who could be that of father or mom. He will have learned that learning is beautiful but it costs effort, and that to do this it is necessary to observe, then try and try again many times until he succeeds. The tendency of the parents, however, is usually to anticipate the child, to help him beyond due so that he does not discourage.
Second inspiration: a mother of a seven -month -old man asks when his little girl becomes autonomous to sleep. In short, he did not expect to face many night awakenings.
Are two examples that bring out the problem of how We adults We face our children. On the one hand we do not give them the time necessary to learn, hindering the achievement of an ever increasing autonomy; on the other there is the desire that become great and autonomous as soon as possibleeven when they cannot do it because they cannot be ready.
