Everything happens in a moment: the child enters the kindergarten and thus begins to take his first steps in society
Robert Fulghum said: “The utmost part of what I really need to know about how to live, what to do and how to behave I learned about kindergarten, wisdom is not at the top of the mountain of superior studies, but in the sand castles of the childhood gardens …”.
Poetic words that make us travel in our memories of children, in a world described as wonderful. In reality, not everyone is convinced that things are just like that and entry into these “childhood gardens” arouses fears and questions: in particular, to the mother who wants to have everything under control, some beautiful words are of little interests. Here there is to understand and know everything, in the smallest details. What really happens in this kindergarten? What changes compared to the nest? Can I trust? How will my baby do a survive in this school jungle? Isn’t it yet too small?
Concerns that deserve an articulated response
Everything happens in a moment. I cross the threshold of the entrance, where a great colorful writing “welcome” stands out and the teacher welcomes everyone with a smile, Our men’s puppy stops being the undisputed prince of the realm. Many will now have to divide scepter and crown, rather than the nest: about 20/25 per section with one or two teachers, depending on the organization inside the institute.
This shocking attack on power will immerse him in a world of relationships made of boys and girls to know, in a place designed to respond to its new needs of growing baby. He will choose the ones I like most, who will become his first great friends. Over time he will learn to group even with others and to share games and spaces that are of everyone here. He will thus begin to take his first steps in society.
The insertion in the kindergarten
Will enter a completely unknown territory or in which it could find something or someone from a family member, if the school has been careful to propose a project of continuity with the experience of the nest. In any case you will have to get used to new thingswill be destabilized, will face a change. Maybe he will have a nostalgia of the house and will cry.
He will test your promises when you say: “I’ll go back to …”. It will be uncertain and fearful in the first steps or will immediately run to play without looking back. If mom, dad, the grandmother with wise advice and the anxious teacher of pleasure will be able to Leave him some living spacehe will do things in his own way and with his time, observing what he has around until he feels safe in the new environment, perhaps accepting to be taken by the hand of that older child who can accompany him in the discovery.
It will return home sweaty and dirty of sand, earth, glue, tempera and other unidentified substances: it has played, touched, colorful, course, skipped, messed. Because, who is to say about it, the kindergarten is not made to get used to children sitting six hours in the desks. He will discover his body and test his movements. He will experience his tastes, limits and potential, what he likes and does not like to do, what activity he prefers and in what he will be better. At home he will tell his day, full of adventures.
A world of new relationships
He will take a barrel from older children (but also from the youngest) and learn to give them of good reason. Will learn to defend yourself and attackwith a little more awareness than the bites experienced at the nest.
If the super-Mamma and the dad-hero will be able to desist from the desire to embark on a legal battle between school, parents of victims and parents of executioners, our puppy it could also learn to make peace, negotiate, collaborate, resolve the conflict. To respect the rules and, with the help of the teacher, to contact the emotions and experiences and the other, thus developing empathic abilities.
Some small discomfort is normal
Sometimes it will happen that the pee will be done because, so taken from the game, it will take it to the last second, failing to get to the bathroom in time. In this regard, as it is normal to be, Various path accidents may be And equally varied is the organization of school in school (there is the teacher who accompanies the children in the bathroom together to not leave the class discovered, there is the assistant who monitors at a distance that everything goes “in the right place”, there is the school where you go to the bathroom alone).
If in general the school should pay attention to the different times of development of each child, especially towards the smallest so -called “anticipatory”, it is also true that already at home We should get used to doing it, thus also having time to better manage tests and errors.
Sure it’s that The school should not be a child fashion show at the last cry. Comfortable clothes to put and remove (via the body and the braces without sacrificing hinges and buttons) will allow them to experience autonomy more effectively.
Deal with the rules
He will do and say things that we have never heard of him and saw: will discover the taste of the forbiddenswear words, of infraving a rule.
He will eat alone (before we took him!), Doing the whims For what he does not want to taste without someone who prepares the “plan B” or, surprisingly, by swallowing up of those things that “at home he never eaten!”, With the taste of sharing the table with their companions.
New achievements
Will fill your home of artifacts of all kinds, shape and sizesome decidedly ugly, demanding that they are well in sight. He will be proud of his works, of that object designed and made with so much effort, with the glue that runs away and with the fingers that do not respond to the commands.
He will obsessively repeat the refrain of that Christmas song: exercising one’s voice and memorytrying the free joy of singing. He will play poems, will invent stories, he will be curious about those signs that become letters with which you can write your name.
He will make a billion drawings that he will leave around everywhere, together with the clip, the sweatshirt and that game that had taken from the house secretly, despairing daily for his loss e thus learning to take care of things and put them back in order.
Will have secrets to be kept: a snail shell, a glittering grove, a squalked candy. He will be surprised at the growing sowing, falling leaves, plays of light, shadows and heat, rain and lightning, formulating hypotheses on the functioning of things and the world.
He will put you in difficulty asking why the mum of his companion has a belly so big, as he did a little brother to enter and above all … how will he go out?! Maybe he will fall in love with his teacher … welcoming a new point of reference in his life. But don’t worry, in the heart of a child there is room for everyone and … Mom is always mom!
He will make it, because he has some Incredible potential. Because children grow up, and we with them.
