“The tree inside of me is part apple, orange-pear-pying, part sluurp, part shadow and sun part. The tree inside me is seed and sprouts, bark and foal branch and trunk and hair. The tree inside me is bird-scrolly-bruco and bee. And since there is a tree inside me, there is also wind, and rain and a river. It is strong and flexible and it has deep roots that forward to the roots of another trunk-ram-chioma and even the sky.
Very often we speak of acceptance of one’s body, weight and own body image. This is as if there was a possible arrival point and as something to do with resignation and unconditional love.
The body, weight and body image are constantly changing and accepting one’s body means welcoming its natural and constant floating.
The relationship with the body It is central to the psychic development of the individual, especially in adolescence. When quickly and suddenly it transforms, assuming strange and disharmonious appearance and communicating new and disturbing sensations for a mind still anchored to a childish functioning.
Body changes with puberty
After puberty, the teenager must build a new mental image of his body, recording on a psychological level the public transformations and attributing relational, social and generative meanings.
Sometimes, however, the body is experienced as hostile and wronginvolves feelings of disappointment and refusal.
The diffusion of aesthetic-alutist culture in society in which we live suggests that body limits are not insurmountable. That the body can be transformed and complosed to the ideal, subjecting it to continuous manipulations offered by the diets, fitness and cosmetic surgery market.
A new idea of body is possible and necessary, based on feeling and potential and resources it intrinsically has in itself.
Why Our body is wonderful. We just have to learn to notice it.
For you you are growing and you are about to become great
“There are days when the light falters and then I remember that the light is me, by and turning it back”
Your body is unique. Nobody has one similar to yours, and it’s fantastic.
Each body is different and every body is ok.
Your body is always evolving and you will notice different changes when you cross puberty.
It will change inside and outside, it will become larger and take more space, and that’s okay.
There is no perfect size, color and size.
What makes you different, makes you yourself. And you are incredible!
It is important to accept and love yourself exactly as you are.
Don’t wait until tomorrow, start immediately.
Our bodies are incredible because they can do so many incredible things.
For example:
- Your ears can hear the music you like and your body can dance at its pace.
- Your eyes can see your TV series of the heart and read your favorite books.
- With your hands you can create beautiful things.
- Your nose can smell flowers in the garden.
- The strength of your arms you can use it to take your little brother or little sister in his arms.
- Your legs will allow you to run as far as possible every time you feel the need.
- Your hands will make everything you want to let go.
- You will also need your hands to let go of what you will no longer want.
Exercise with me
Now try to do this exercise with me: put in front of the mirror and try to search for at least three characteristics of you who identify you. Those that make you say that it is you. And try to ask you to be able to contact your body’s wisdom better:
- What teaches me?
- How do you draw parts of my identity?
- What I want to thank him.
It is naive to use our body only as a business card or as a tool, because it is intelligence and wisdom.
Being inside the possibility of the body instead means starting to use it as intelligence centeras a place of awareness and wisdom.
Maybe you are used to being in contact only with what you don’t like about you and focus on all those parts of you that you feel deeply wrong. But what happens below, next to it, despite, yet?
Maintaining attention to us, on all of us, trains us to look at us with more kindness and compassion. It reminds us that everything within us deserves attention and dignity. Not only what is overbearing.
We do not come out of the inadequacy by learning to adapt. It goes out by learning to trust that there is a wise, enlightened, loving nucleus within us.
We must not add anything and much less adjust anything, our job is to remove to return to contact him!
Meditation can be of great help.
Body Scan meditation
Accomeded, close your eyes and try to move from the dimension of seeing that of feeling, whatever it means for you right now.
You can feel sounds, noises around you, you can feel the contact with the support points through your skin. You can hear the sensations that live there at the moment from the inside.
Enter this dimension of listening to what you feel with a curious and kind attitude. You are not looking for anything in particular, you are just trying to train your ability to feel with an attitude that does not need to judge.
At this moment more than to make order and cleaning between your sensations … we are interested in that you can realize it.
You can let your attention move freely inside your body and you can afford to appoint what you feel and meet gradually.
Focuses attention on breathing
A bit as if by appointing some sensations you are greeting and among all these sensations go to look for that of the stability of your body which is accommodated here, and focused on your breath.
And try to get in touch with the feeling of breath.
Pay attention to the movement of the breath and let your mind anchor to breath and instead of following the thoughts and everything that takes you away from this moment, learn to stay inside your body right now.
Your breathing is continuous and follows its rhythm, sure that it will continue without any effort because it happens by itself.
And then let that together with the many sensations that you can meet inside your body, at this moment, there is also the continuity and safety of the breath.
Inhale. Exhale.
Institating you can let it create space, the chest gets up, the chest case expands, exhaling you can let the breath bring some softness and a little relaxation.
Inside your breath you can find Stability, opening, softness and calm. You can notice the well -being that each breath can offer you.
To close the practice try to stay still a few moments in contact with the sensations of your breath, you can welcome all the well -being that every breath can offer you.
And again try to greet these sensations, recognizing them with their name and recognizing that inside each breath you can find all this. There is no judgment. There is no necessary perfection. Only trust in your possibilities and welcome of your entirety.
When you feel it, with your times, you reopen your eyes.
For you who are little, but you are growing quickly
“You barely scalpy the surface of what you are capable of, you have decades of victories in front of you”
Put together a sunflower, a frog and an elephant, even the sun and the stars, and here a story begins …
Once upon a time there was a sunflower named Mezzatoglia. Every time he stood the sun he turned to look at him, and he was refreshing to hear all that beautiful heat. A large elephant passed by there, like a giant and giant was in fact his name and they began to converse together:
“Hi mezzate how are you today?”
“In short, giant elephant I am a little sad. I was mugging on one thing. I would like to be as big as you, so at my passage everyone would notice me and they would turn to look at me. Instead, they are just one of many, and totally unable to do anything. Nobody can notice me, admire me, look at me, want me and choose me.”
Giant elephant did not have time to respond that he was immediately anticipated by a small ranocchia called Picci who intruded into the speech by starting to complain:
“Oh mezzate, how lucky you are, you know, I am so small that every time I risk being crushed and I am so afraid of the big sizes. In some ways I also admire them. They are strong and safe of themselves, I am so vulnerable and in danger … But, here, I can do it very well, the tickle … do you want me to try?!
They all laughed together!
So it was the round of giant elephant who, confiding with his friends, said to them:
“You know, in fact it is not so beautiful for me to be great, I feel so exposed and since I suffer from social anxiety and pathological shyness, it is very tiring for me to always be at the center of attention. I feel so much shame. I would just like to hide and become a small pigeon.
The three friends looked at each other in the eyes and laughed with taste. Just of taste. And they realized that:
- Nobody was satisfied and happy with himself,
- Everyone would have liked to be someone else,
- Together they had a lot of fun.
They understood, therefore, that being together, living the ties and everyone shares their own feeling made them feel much better, and so, contacting themselves in the space of love, and friendship, with each other, had the power to enrich the space of personal love, within itself and with it.
And then the sky, which has become starred, was a wonder. All those stars captured the attention of the three friends, because it is known that … the stars have a gift: they shine. Always.
For everyone, but everyone
“You have nothing wrong
This is growth
This is transformation
It is protecting
Get lost in the noise
Orientate
Feel used
Ignored
Lose hope
Run out
This is fear
This is elaboration
This is survival
This is to be alive
You lose everything
When you don’t love yourself
And you earn everything when you want you. “
The tree inside of you grows and sprouts, ensures nourishment and comfort and bonds, again, again and again. This is how possible, a joyful interconnection with every form of life.
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